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 The boys grew up, and Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the open country, while Jacob was content to stay at home among the tents. Isaac, who had a taste for wild game, loved Esau, but Rebekah loved Jacob.

- Genesis 25:27-28

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In a family of two or more children, each child has a stronger affinity for a different parent. There are two main ways this can happen:

  1. Each child resembles a different parent in looks or personality.
  2. Each parent is closer to or favours a different child.

These tend to go hand-in-hand, but not always. Sometimes, even when parents strive to be impartial, they still find that each child is more like one parent than the other. Conversely, taking after a parent is no guarantee of being that parent's favourite; it may even have the opposite effect.

May lead to accusations of Parental Favouritism, or to each child feeling like one parent's Unfavourite. Can lead to Sibling Rivalry and even Cain and Abel, particularly when the parents are at odds with each other. May contribute to Middle Child Syndrome if there are more than two children.

On the other hand, a family like this may be perfectly happy if each child is content to be one parent's favourite. And - as so often happens - the children may well be closer to each other than to either parent.

The most common stereotype is a Daddy's Girl and a Momma's Boy. A common variation, especially if both siblings are the same gender, is for the tougher or "manlier" one to be closer to the dad, and the more sensitive or "girlier" one to be closer to the mom.

Examples of Jacob and Esau include:

Film[]

Literature[]

  • In A Song of Ice and Fire, the Stark children all physically take after one of their parents. Arya takes after Ned, and Robb, Sansa, Bran, and Rickon all take after Catelyn. Personality-wise, only Robb really takes after either of the parents - he takes after Ned. (Jon both looks and acts like Ned, but isn't Cat's son.)
    • This causes Catelyn some amount of angst, at least before other concerns rear their head: Jon is the only son who takes after Ned physically, yet he's the illegitimate one.
  • Glynn and Ember from Isobelle Carmody's 'Legendsong Saga'. Glynn is much closer to her father while Eber takes after her mother in both looks and talents. It is mentioned that their mother didn't really want children at all, and is only able to love Ember because they are so similar. Strongly influences Glynn's personality.
  • John Steinbeck's East of Eden relies heavily on the Cain/Abel, Jacob/Esau motif throughout its entirety. There are two sets of brothers: Adam and Charles and then Aron and Cal (sons of Adam and a crazy maniacal whore named Cathy). Adam and Aron = Jacob/Abel, Charles and Cal = Esau/Cain. Adam and Aron are good boys who take after their dads. Charles and Cal are more... unstable and tend to flirt with evil, taking after their mothers.

Live-Action T.V.[]

  • Heroes:
  • That 70s Show: Red makes no secret of his preference for Laurie, while Kitty is subtler about her favoritism toward Eric.
  • Revenge: In the Grayson family, Daniel is clearly Victoria's favorite, while Charlotte seems to be Conrad's.
  • On Roseanne Dan's favorites are Darlene and DJ, while the title character is closer to Becky. Though later Dan develops a closer bond with Becky and Roseanne with Darlene, especially due to the latter pair being quite similar personality-wise.
    • Inverted with Jackie and Roseanne and their own parents. Jackie favored their father, while Roseanne tolerated their mother better. As adults, Jackie downplays her father's bad qualities while Roseanne, despite finding her mother annoying, will open her home to her and help her deal with her problems.
  • In Modern Family, Mitchell always considered himself closer to his mother, while Claire felt closer to their father.
  • Everwood started out with daughter Delia being much closer to her father Andy, while Ephram favored his late mother. This was deconstructed over the first season as Ephram learned his mother was having an affair, though, and he slowly developed a better relationship with Andy.
  • A few episodes of Family Matters had Carl favoring Laura, his intelligent "little princess", while Harriet was much easier on Eddie when he screwed up.

Mythology & Religion[]

  • The prototypical example, at least in western culture, is probably Jacob and Esau from The Bible. They are twins, but Esau, the elder brother, is favoured by his father, while Jacob is his mother's favourite. The latter two even conspire successfully to cheat Esau out of his inherritance. [1]

Western Animation[]

  • Avatar: The Last Airbender: Ozai preferred Azula, Ursa preferred Zuko. Of course, this is a Big Screwed-Up Family being talked about here, so....
  • Downplayed on The Simpsons. While Homer and Marge love all three of their kids, the go-to emotional episode pairs are always Homer-Lisa and Marge-Bart. Sometimes Maggie will get a turn with either parent, but usually Homer.
  • Bob's Burgers inverts this when it does come up. While the whole family is pretty close, Louise clearly favors her father while Gene is a Mama's Boy.

Real Life[]

  1. Esau's alienation does not last forever. Esau's descendants are the Edomites, and Jacob's descendants are the Israelites (including the Jews). During the Secunda period of Judaea, the Edomites become part of the Jewish people and share their inheritance again.